Trusting and Bridging the Gap

Task Based

Relationship Based


Make a quick mental list of five or six people you trust—people from different areas of your life. The list may include personal connections like your mother or your spouse, but may also include a colleague, your manager, the administrator. Then consider for a moment how the trust you feel for each person was built. What events led you to trust them? You might notice that the type of trust you feel for one person is very different from the type of trust you feel for another. The differences can be complex, but one simple distinction is between two forms of trust: cognitive trust and affective trust.

Cognitive trust is based on the confidence you feel in another person’s accomplishments, skills, and reliability. This is trust that comes from the head. It is often built through business interactions: We work together, you do your work well, and you demonstrate through the work that you are reliable, pleasant, consistent, intelligent, and transparent. Result: I trust you.

Affective trust, on the other hand, arises from feelings of emotional closeness, empathy, or friendship. This type of trust comes from the heart. We laugh together, relax together, and see each other at a personal level, so that I feel affection or empathy for you and sense that you feel the same for me. Result: I trust you.

Throughout the world, friendships and personal relationships are built on affective trust. But the source of trust in work relationships is a little more complicated.

On the Trusting scale, countries are rated from high task-based to high relationship-based. The further a culture falls toward the task-based end of the scale, the more people from that culture tend to separate affective and cognitive trust, and to rely mainly on cognitive trust for work relationships. The further a culture falls toward the relationship-based end of the scale; the more cognitive and affective trust are woven together in business.

In task-based societies, relationships are defined by functionality and practicality. It is relatively easy to move in and out of networks, and if a business relationship proves to be unsatisfactory to either party, it’s a simple matter to close the door on that relationship and move into another.

In relationship-based societies, relationships are built up slowly, founded not just on professional credibility but also on deeper emotional connections—and after the relationship is built, it is not dropped easily.


Bridging the Gap

Building trust in a Task-Based culture:

  • Follow through on commitments
  • Report out on your accomplishments
  • Don’t assume a friendly conversation is indicative of a deep relationship
  • Don’t discount the importance of relationships…they are will critical

Building trust in a Relationship- Based culture:

  • Show up as your true, integrated self
  • Don’t “get down to business” until a caring connection is established
  • Offer explanations when asking for details
  • Don’t assume a “hard shell” doesn’t have a soft centre
  • Build on common interests